wanderlight | reworking the end of year meme in a depression-/disability-friendly way?

Odd question, but would anyone be interested in reworking the end-of-year meme (ex.) with me, to make it more depression-/disability-friendly? Or even just more ... flexible?

I like having a neat, time-capsuled summary of each year, but I had a lot of trouble with it this time. Couldn't get through it without a breakdown. The problem is with the questions, I think, not with self-reflection in general: certain questions are unproductive or even triggery ("What was your biggest failure?"; "Compared to last year, are you thinner or fatter?"), and just generally unnecessary. If anyone's interested, I'd love to do this collaboratively, and hear what you all have to think.

Discussion ideas! Um. Which questions to leave out? Which (entirely new) questions to add? How to reword certain others, to make them flexible and to take into account that what "achievement" is can really vary, depending on a person's circumstances. I'd love to see more of a focus on personal progress (ignoring typical external markers of it), self-care, friendship, etc. As someone who struggles with both depression and disability, I know it's essential for my mental health that I mark success in a way that works for me. I am not able to travel, or work, for instance. A monumental achievement might be something like reaching out to a friend, or keeping up my physical therapy for three months even though it hurts like hell. I'm seeking to frame the meme in a way that invites people to say things like that, and be damned proud of it. (A really good example of this sort of thing is

synecdochic's weekly pride thread, which I think is genius.)

So, under the cut: an unanswered version of the meme. My thoughts are noted at the end. I know that all seems like a lot, but honestly, I'd love for anyone to make just one or two suggestions. ;) The original meme
(Though I know there are variations; this is just the version I happen to have grabbed five years ago.)

1. What did you do in 2011 that you'd never done before?
2. Did you keep your new years' resolutions? Will you make more for next year?
3. Did anyone close to you give birth?
4. Did anyone close to you die?
5. What countries did you visit?
6. What would you like to have in 2011 that you lacked in 2011?
7. What date from 2011 will remain etched upon your memory, and why?
8. What was your biggest achievement of the year?
9. What was your biggest failure?
10. Did you suffer illness or injury?
11. What was the best thing you bought?
12. Whose behaviour merited celebration?
13. Whose behaviour made you appalled and depressed?
14. Where did most of your money go?
15. What did you get really, really, really excited about?
16. What songs will always remind you of 2011?
17. Compared to this time last year, are you:
a. happier or sadder?
b. thinner or fatter?
c. richer or poorer?
18. What do you wish you'd done more of?
19. What do you wish you'd done less of?
20. How did you spend Christmas?
21. How did you spend New Year's?
22. Did you fall in love in 2011?
23. How many one-night stands?
24. What was your favourite TV program?
25. Do you hate anyone now that you didn't hate this time last year?
26. What was the best book you read?
27. What was your greatest musical discovery?
28. What did you want and get?
29. What did you want and not get?
30. What was your favourite film of this year?
31. What did you do on your birthday, and how old were you?
32. What one thing would have made your year immeasurably more satisfying?
33. How would you describe your personal fashion concept in 2011?
34. What kept you sane?
35. Which celebrity/public figure did you fancy the most?
36. What political issue stirred you the most?
37. Who did you miss?
38. Who was the best new person you met?
39. Tell us a valuable life lesson you learned in 2011.
40. Quote a song lyric that sums up your year.

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My thoughts:

Questions that seem like they'd be kind of unproductive to dwell on: 6 (What would you like to have in 2011 that you lacked in 2011?), 9 (What was your biggest failure?), 13 (Whose behaviour made you appalled and depressed?), 17b (Compared to this time last year, are you thinner or fatter?), 25 (Do you hate anyone now that you didn't hate this time last year?). I don't think it's a bad thing to recognise failures, or things that you are still working towards, but -- I don't know, something about the phrasing makes them unanswerable for me. 17b is straight-up triggery and unnecessary; I would personally replace it with something about fitness (mental or physical) or eating well, probably.

Questions that maybe need to be phrased differently, or changed: 10 (Did you suffer illness or injury?), 17a (Compared to this time last year, are you happier or sadder?), 22 (Did you fall in love in 2011?), 35 (Which celebrity/public figure did you fancy the most?). I don't think it's a bad thing to track your mental health, but happier/sadder is an oversimplistic way of looking at it: like, I'm sadder this year because I have way more shit to deal with, but I have much better coping skills. That kind of thing. I would probably change 22 to something like, "Who did you love in 2011, and in which way, and why?" so that it's not just narrow-mindedly all about typical "romantic" love. And 35 just clearly needs to be changed to include fictional characters. :D

Questions that are may be less relevant to certain people: 17c (Compared to this time last year, are you richer or poorer?), 23 (How many one-night stands?).

Questions that could be added: What was something kind you did for yourself this year? What mistake(s) didn't you make? Did anything unexpected happen? What small (or big) thing did you do that you're most proud of? What was the best gift you received? Any goals for next year?

PS. To everyone who send me messages after my last post, I want to say, thank you. You are awesome. I am having trouble responding to all of them, but please know that I've read them all, several times, and appreciate them so much. ♥